Facts About Premature Ejaculation and How to Manage It

As a man, your body can do many things! Sometimes, these things may be unwanted. Like premature ejacluation, for example. We are here to explain one of the most common conditions in men that is often thought of as negative, embarrassing, and untreatable. 

By definition, premature ejaculation is characterized as achieving orgasm before you would like to. Typically, men who struggle with premature ejaculation reach orgasm in about sixty seconds after penetration. Sometimes, orgasm may even be reached before any penetration takes place. 

To be clear, premature ejaculation doesn’t always stem from a “lack of control” as many seem to think, it can also be caused by other factors. Fortunately, PE can often be managed, it’s just a matter of knowing how to do it. 

Below is everything you need to know about premature ejaculation. 

The 5 Things You Didn’t Know About Premature Ejaculation

1. It’s a Fairly Common Problem

Although millions of men with premature ejaculation concerns tend to not seek help, experts estimate that it’s a fairly common problem. It’s speculated that struggles with premature ejaculation have affected every man at some point or another in their lives. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, your time still may come. 

Premature ejaculation is sometimes thought of as a learned behavior by medical scientists for a couple of reasons. First, when male patients are young, they may see sex as negative or ”bad”. Therefore developing negative associations with arousal. Second, because of the influx of hormones, they may naturally achieve orgasms too quickly. These young men will then experience difficulty with their sexual performance.

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2 It’s Not a Disease

Studies show that PE is not a physical or permanent psychological disease. Rather, it’s considered to be an occurrence, or something that just happens. As men gain more experience having sex with partners, issues with premature ejaculation may subside. However, PE may also be a symptom of an underlying condition — so keep this in mind if you’re experiencing symptoms of PE regularly.  

Premature ejaculation is often caused by having a lack of body awareness and not fully connecting with your partner. Fortunately, there are simple things you can do to overcome premature ejaculation and train yourself to last longer during intercourse. 

3. Relaxation is Key

Many times, premature ejaculation isn’t always about sexual stimulation. If a man is anxious, depressed, or overly excited, this could lead to achieving orgasm more quickly than desired. 

Staying relaxed during sex is key. In order to stay relaxed, try taking deep breaths to help with slowing down your heart rate and keeping you in the present moment. Also, remember that drugs and alcohol may help you relax in the short-term, but they’re not addressing the actual problem — and can actually make you more anxious.

4. Sexual Position May Help

Another way to stay relaxed is by trying out different sexual positions with your partner. When the man is on top, this can create extra stress and strain on the penis and groin area. Instead, try to have intercourse with your partner on top of you to relieve the pressure. This is an easy way to stay relaxed and prolong your orgasm. 

We recommend you try several positions in order to find what helps you feel the most relaxed. Be sure to communicate your anxieties with your partner to see if he or she is willing to try new things. This should help you enjoy sex and alleviate anxiety about premature ejaculation.

5. Treatment is Available

Along with the various techniques you can try at home, there is also treatment available to improve your symptoms. 

Again, because you could have an underlying medical issue causing premature ejaculation, it’s important to visit your urologist. Male-specific issues such as an enlarged prostate may be causing your PE, so be sure to speak with your doctor about getting a prostate-specific antigen test

Your urologist will discuss your concerns with you and talk about what you can do differently during sex. Fortunately, you have many options such as medication, masturbation (which can help you to prolong orgasm on your own and even last longer with a partner), counseling if the issue is psychological, and other techniques that can help you to delay ejaculation.

See a Urologist for Premature Ejaculation

If you struggle with premature ejaculation, don’t be embarrassed about seeking help. This all-too-common condition is seen by urologists more than you think, and we know how to help. Discuss treatment options to discover what would work best for you and your situation. Overall, remember to stay relaxed, communicate with your partner, and enjoy the experience!

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This blog post was originally written in 2018 and refreshed in 2020.