Having a supportive partner before, during and after vasectomy surgery makes a difference!

A vasectomy is a simple surgery during which the small tubes in a man’s scrotum that carry sperm are cut or blocked off so that sperm cannot leave the body. It is a simple, safe, and effective surgical procedure but nonetheless, a life-changing and permanent surgery that should be carefully considered by couples.

Since the male partner is the one who undergoes the actual procedure, there are a few ways the female partner can assist their loved one and support them before, during, and after the surgery.  


  • Make a mutual decision to go through with the procedure. Consider heavily the permanence of the procedure and the future of your family.
  • Help your partner choose a good date to schedule the appointment. Note: he’ll need a few post-op recovery days. This means you’ll likely need to be available to help before, during, and after.
  • Completely understand how the procedure works, the associated risks, and what you can expect from your partner post-surgery.
  • Consult with your partner’s doctor about any concerns you or he might have, like how it will affect your sex life, and what to do if you change your mind.
  • Because the procedure doesn’t require general anesthesia (only a local anesthesia), you can prepare your man a delicious meal prior to surgery.
  • Encourage them to shower and clean the area thoroughly on the day of the procedure.


  • A vasectomy is a quick and easy outpatient surgery meaning the patient will get to go home the same day. Give your partner a ride to the doctor’s office, clinic or hospital, and be there when they finish to take them home. This is especially important if they are in pain or have a history of fainting or anxiety. Although not all men will need someone to drive them home after, each case is different and it’s a good way to be supportive.
  • As far as pain goes, give your partner comfort in knowing they won’t feel much at all during the procedure. To make the procedure as comfortable as possible, the doctor will use a local anesthesia to numb the testicles. The numbing shot or when the vas deferens tubes may cause slight discomfort. Otherwise, the procedure is relatively painless.


  • Let your partner lay down as much as possible for two to three days after the procedure.
  • Help with tasks that involve heavy lifting or strenuous movement for about a week after the procedure.
  • Provide your partner with lots of ice or bags of frozen peas to ease the post-surgery pain.
  • Encourage your partner take it easy. They just had surgery. It will take some time before they are fully recovered and ready to resume full activities.
  • Vasectomies are the most effective type of birth control (almost 100 percent effective at preventing pregnancies) but don’t expect it to work right away. It takes about three months for semen to be free of sperm. Other forms of birth control are advised during this period to prevent unintended pregnancies.
  • A few months after the procedure, the patient will be tested by their doctor for sperm, and if their semen is sperm-free, no other form of birth control will be needed.

Do whatever you can to help your partner through the procedure and recover from the vasectomy smoothly. (Even if it means letting them have control over the TV remote for an entire weekend.) He is sure to appreciate all of your love and support!

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